How to Preserve Your Energy From Energy Vampires and Narcissists.

Do you ever feel drained around certain people? You notice that when you interact with them you feel depleted of life source energy as you go about your day? If you start to feeling low energy and you are doing everything to create energy for yourself such as: practicing good selfcare, enacting spiritual practices, working-out, being creative, and or engaging in other energy replenishing activities, then you could be giving away irretrievable energy to your partner or a person in your life without realizing it.

We all know that we need energy to perform at our best. We have only have so much energy in our tanks every day to get through the day. The biggest energy drains can be negative situations or toxic people. Toxic people are those who deplete your life source without replenishing you. How do we preserve our energy from these people and block them?

1. First identify the source of where the toxicity is coming from. Try to pinpoint who in your life is draining you. You can tell they are by how you feel when they walk in the room or how you feel after an interaction with them. If you do not feel excited, calm or pleased to see them then there is some unhealthy dynamics going on and you will need to remove yourself. If you feel afraid, fearful, or exhausted, when you interact with this person then this person is an energy vampire. The negative emotions are what creates a drain of energy from you because you have to use energy to sustain a toxic dynamic that is not giving back to you. Healthy energy is created from good interactions and usually comes from people who give back to you in a positive way.

2. Create healthy boundaries for this person and a way to block their influence on you. For example; do not engage with them if you know it will escalate into anger or forced control and a play with your emotions. This will ultimately suck your energy and leave you feeling depleted. Try your best to shut them down and move away. Provide yourself an exit plan and a way to remove yourself emotionally or physically should they try to continue pushing your boundaries.

3. Remove your thoughts and any anxiety projected towards them that would take your focus off yourself. You give them control when you care too much about what they think. You are not them, you will only dig yourself deeper into their lair by obsessing about them. Apply Philippians 4:8. This as an escape path in your mind for whenever an unpleasant interaction with that person puts you in a tail spin.

4. Stop putting so much effort into caring how you present to them or what you think they will think of you. Nor should you give much care about what you think they want from you. Do not let them have that power over you. Also do not let your unforgiveness of them have power over you either. When we have unresolved misgivings about a situation, we start to use energy trying to make sense in our minds to correct the situation so we can accept it instead of moving on. Forgive, forget, and move on so this doesn’t keep you blocked and spiraling in the wrong direction.

5. Find a way to change your state and up-level it away from the circumstance. Free yourself by redirecting your focus and creating new situations and memories that are life giving. Using situations and new rendezvous to rebalance our lives can bring positivity back. Positivity is an up level of our state. Most of us are analytical and like to process when a situation comes up, but if it is negative this keeps us in a low state. Especially if we were mistreated or shocked by someone. Giving ourselves new memories and building up our positive interactions can help us stay unstuck.

6. If you have to live daily with this toxic person, start overwhelming yourself with your own pursuits to the point that you have no energy to put towards that person. When you do this you draw focus and energy away from them and you conserve your energy for yourself and your loved ones. You can even start rebuilding the energy that has been depleted by pursuing things that are life giving and produce joy for you like being creative, or healthy relationships.

7. Release any soul ties or holds that person has on your life. These could be promises they made and never kept that you are stilling holding on to. Unmet expectations you have in your head about what they should be like and what they should do for you. You can even unknowingly come into agreement with negative words they have spoken over you. If it is a romantic partner who is depleting you, try to rethink your reasoning for which you still care about what they think besides your being blinded by love. But then what is love? Love uplifts and doesn't deplete. In this case your love would be one-sided.

8. Let go of any fear or nervousness you feel around that person and any potential outcome you imagine with them. Don’t try to control whatever happens if you do not please them, just control whatever you can do for yourself and be your best in every situation. Try not to engage too deeply with them if you know it provokes them and gives them a platform to deplete you. When we are vulnerable it allows the stage to be set for those who steal our energy to exploit us. If the person becomes physically violent when you are still doing your best to keep emotional charge out of the situation, remove yourself and call the police. Give yourself peace of mind by always having an exit plan you can execute on short notice should this person not respect the healthy boundaries that you put in place for them.

9. Set yourself up for success outside this toxic person so that you have no strings attached to them and are not beholden to them for anything. This will release their control of you. Any emotional attachment you have on anything they have to say or offer you in-life can also become a way to control you. Beware of their advantages to rope you in and create your own lifeline.

10. Have your own vision, purpose, and things that you care about outside of the energy thief so that they provide little attraction for you. Often times "energy thief's" or "narcissist's" can entrap you by baiting you with wealth, things, affections, ideal circumstances, and promises which mean nothing to them to get you to open up and give your energy to them. During a love relationship, this tactic is called "Love Bombing". It is designed to disable you and make you unaware of their energy thieving upfront.

11. Last but not least, build yourself up daily with reminders through affirmations about your self worth. Reinstate beliefs systems that you are high identity so that you have a good foundation behind your reasoning for recourse against these energy thieves. With high worth and a high value on your energy, you will no longer allow anyone to steal your energy or deplete you. Nor will you feel like you need to apologize for it because you value preserving your energy above all else so you can operate at your best. Proverbs 4:23.

In what ways can you preserve your energy from energy thieves? Feel free to share in the comments below.

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